Please note: This is Part 2 to a story… click here for Part 1: The Shift Leader
…this is where the Shift occurred… from the Mirror, I could see Reflections of Me.
The Mirror is a tool and most people avoid really looking at their own reflection. It’s easier to blame, avoid responsibility and point fingers. This practice is for you, who like me, want to break painful patterns in our lives, who want to change for the better, live more authentically, love ourselves, and others in a pure way, heal our pain, and cultivate relationships of truth, depth and connection with others. The Mirror takes courage and humility. Be gentle with yourself in its Reflections.
To be clear, the Shift Leader and I, did not have a conversation about my lengthy process to understand she how was a Mirror for me or what the Mirror concept was about in the first place. In fact, the only interaction was on the day of the incident and it lasted only 3-minutes. There was no need to talk to her about it or “process” as almost all of this was my internal work to do. The Reflecting. Now obviously, she could have been nicer to me. She could have told me the truth. She could have told me that she threw my things in the Lost and Found, but she didn’t. Maybe she assumed I knew the result of leaving my belongings overnight and where to look. Who knows… it does not matter. Right and Wrong really is NOT the point. The point IS about looking and taking personal responsibility. We don’t have to assign blame, or like or approve of anyone’s behavior. What matters is the understanding that we can ultimately only and change ourselves. That is…. if we are willing to look and become AWARE of the areas that need change. That’s where The Mirror can be helpful.
When we own our behavioral choices, we have an opportunity for truth and change. What I am proposing is the investigation; to use the other person as a Mirror for self reflection and examination. The Mirror reflects an image, an impression, it could be energy, or an expression or body language. This all informs you and is communicated in the other person’s (the mirror’s) words, behavior or reaction.
We can all get mixed up in the soup, our stuff with their stuff. None of us have completely clean and clear mirrors. We have a history, a patterning from our youth, our family our culture, etcetera. This ‘mixing’ does not devalue what is true in the other’s Reflection of you. What is true is for your to determine. There is always something for you to receive, gain or to look at. The Reflection is what may be useful if you care to LOOK, give consideration and tease out what is yours.
The Reflection is a tool to know yourself more deeply. Self-awareness, investigation and self-discovery are all in your hands!